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101 TIPS FOR
AVOIDING PROCRASTINATION!
TABLE OF CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION.........................................................
3
SELF-EVALUATION...................................................5
PROCRASTINATION AT HOME ........................... 14
PROCRASTINATION IN SCHOOL......................... 20
PROCRASTINATION AT THE WORK PLACE..... 26
PROCRASTINATION AND HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS............................................................
39
SELF IMPROVEMENT – A GENERAL SENSE OF WELL BEING ..................................................................
46
BONUS TIPS............................................................ 54
CONCLUSION......................................................... 63
I. Introduction
On the back of the jacket of Jack
Canfield’s book, The Success Principles, this
quotation caught our attention: “The principles always
work if you work the principles”.
Perhaps this is too simplistic a statement or merely echoes another familiar
marketing “come-on”, but it does translate into
a variation of the work ethic. To us, this means doing instead
of just thinking.
And doing is synonymous to action, execution, implementation, carrying out –
all these convey the active mode as opposed to the
passive mode of just thinking.
The human brain knows no limits when it comes to thinking out ways and
strategies in dealing with all kinds of problems, but if these
strategies and plans are NOT acted upon, they really hold
no meaning
– they’re like empty blueprints camouflaged in sparkling rhetoric.
And rhetoric comes cheap these days.
We’ve made up our minds to be less ambitious about this work, and called
the 101 recommendations and suggestions contained in this
book as simply TIPS. Tips on how NOT to procrastinate.
Procrastination pervades every aspect of our lives. And we’ve mastered
it to perfection having learned a subtle form of it when we
were babies.
We delayed falling asleep because our mothers wouldn’t cradle us
in her arms. We’ve procrastinated in performing our
duties at home, in school, in the work place, and in our most
fragile human relationships. We shudder to think what the
final tally of lost hours will be because we procrastinated
habitually.
Some of the tips we share here may be useful and some may be irrelevant. Others
will come in handy not necessarily today, but at a later stage
of our lives.
Procrastination is an expensive habit. We discovered that one of the ways that
will not make us procrastinate is to figure out the dollar
amount of something that was not done because of procrastination.
It all points to the generally accepted idea that time is money. This alone can
serve as a strong motivator not to procrastinate again. Or
at least to try not procrastinate!
Jack Canfield quoted Brian Tracy to drive home the message: “Life is like
a combination lock; your job is to find the right numbers,
in the right order, so you can have anything you want”.
We’d be lying if we told you that if you followed our 101 tips on how not
to procrastinate, you can have anything you want. It doesn’t
work that way.
These tips are ideas that have come from our heads and from other people’s
heads. And it’s up to you to apply them in every segment
of your daily routine. Avoiding procrastination is more effective
when we start with little steps. It does not mean having to
change our lives drastically.
But as one writer said, not procrastinating will make us appreciate the life
we have now. And as we build on the small steps, we’d
be amazed at how much we can accomplish over the years.
In deciding not to procrastinate, you may want to accompany this determination
with clear cut and well defined goals.
In other words, have a goal that is quantified, and not just qualified.
For example, saying “I will lose weight” is NOT as powerful as “I
will lose 35 pounds in 1-1/2 years.” These are concrete
data you can work with. “I will lose weight” sounds
noble enough, but let’s count the ways, shall we?
II. Self-Evaluation
Tip # 1 Everything starts and ends with the self
If someone said to you that you
were a procrastinator, your immediate reaction would be
to defend yourself. “It’s his fault”,
“My mother was like that too”, “I was
forced to do something I didn’t want to do”.
Some people like to blame their misfortunes on others. But the truth is, you
are equally at fault. You procrastinate because you yourself
choose to procrastinate. The sooner you accept that, the
better you’ll be able to overcome procrastination.
Tip # 2 I want NOT to procrastinate anymore
In line with tip # 1 above, once you accept that procrastination is your
weakness, the next step is to eliminate this weakness. Your
desire not to procrastinate anymore should be sincere. You
need to demonstrate that determination through small daily
gestures.
Tip # 3 Mea Culpa-Take Responsibility
You’ve accepted the fact that (a) you’re a procrastinator,
and (b) you have a sincere desire to change. Now tell yourself
that if you fail to achieve a particular goal or a given
task, it’s because you procrastinated. Mea culpa.
Admitting guilt is a giant step. Note, however, that there
is a huge difference between admitting guilt and being too
hard on yourself. Admitting guilt is taking ownership of
your actions. Being too hard on yourself is unjustified
self-blame. Continue from where you left off.
Tip # 4 Ask: In what ways do I procrastinate?
Ask yourself, “In what ways do I procrastinate?” Sit down
with pen and paper. Writing them will help you focus and
identify them more clearly. Here are some ways where people
procrastinate:
- paying bills
- not discussing the complaints you’ve received about a member of your team
for fear of hurting his/her feelings
- repeatedly postponing a dental appointment because you’ve got better things
to do
- not returning the call of your son’s teacher because you know what the
problem is and you’re fed up
- not discussing your resentment about your husband spending too much time at work
or with his buddies
- not getting that hair cut, that dress dry-cleaned, that donation mailed
- not visiting a sick relative in the hospital
- not telling your significant other you no longer love her/him
- not calling your doctor about that persistent numbness in your right arm or not
fixing a colonoscopy exam date
- not having the car’s squeaking brakes checked
- not going to confession because you never know what the priest’s
schedule is
- not sending that overdue thank you note or making that overdue call to your mother-in-law
Tip # 5 Goals not met because of procrastination
After listing the ways in which you procrastinate, make a second list
of goals that you failed to achieve because you procrastinated.
Let’s take two typical examples: you promised your editor you’d get
that article done by a certain due date. On the day the
article was due, the editor calls you. You tell her sheepishly
that you didn’t have time to do it, and you say something
like, “My son was sick for days and I couldn’t
concentrate” knowing full well your editor was generous
with a deadline date.
Result? You took one step farther away from your goal of becoming a professional
writer, and two steps farther away from developing a good
relationship with an editor who picked you from the 25 writers
who applied for the assignment. You can be sure your name
has been taken off her address list.
Second example: you delayed lobbying for your colleague’s promotion even
if he was the best man for the job.
Result? The job went to someone less deserving; second, your colleague resigned
to take up another offer.
When you measure the consequences of a missed opportunity because you procrastinated,
ask if the consequence was worth the delay.
Tip # 6 Taking the hint from tips 4 and 5: what is the
dollar value of missed opportunity?
In fast-paced societies, people tend to think of time as precious and
valuable. Expressions such as “time is of the essence,”
“time means money,” “you missed the train”,
“you missed a window of opportunity” reinforce
the value of time.
When wheelers and dealers on the stock exchange take time off to whisper sweet
nothings to their better half, those three minutes can mean
hundreds, even thousands of dollars in missed transactions.
So, install a permanent calculator in your brain and calculate how much that
missed deal meant in terms of dollar value.
The article you didn’t submit could have cost you $150.00.
Your colleague’s resignation from the company wiped off an important asset
from your human resources ledger.
If we make it a practice to tag a dollar sign for each of our procrastinations,
we’d probably resolve to procrastinate less.
Tip # 7 What kind of information do you need in a hurry?
We spend half our lives on the phone. We spend an equally big chunk of
time looking for phone numbers and names. The directory
is cumbersome. Putting them on your outlook means you have
to reboot your computer.
Here’s a neat trick: tear out sheets from your notepad and label each as
kitchen, bedroom and living room.
Kitchen sheet: jot down the following telephone numbers:
- supermarket
- butcher’s
- pastry shop
- utensil stores
- take out pizza and other delivery shops
- drug store
- Oriental grocery
Bedroom sheet:
- dry cleaner’s
- doctors and dentists
- walk-in clinic
- shoe repair shop
- alteration shop
- department store
- Catalog order stores, etc.
Living room sheet:
- professional house cleaners
- plant shop
- local home centre
- florist
- bookstore
- eyeglasses
- airport
Or if you prefer to use your cell phone, use its memory feature.
Tip # 8 Filtering the essential from the petty
Procrastination is the opposite of action. When you decide which of your
tasks need immediate attention and those that can be done
later in the week, you’ve just learned the fine art
of prioritizing. So decide – once and for all –
which should be assigned top priority, and then act.
Tip # 9 Better in black and white than dreaming in technicolor
That’s just our way of saying that when you read things on paper,
you’re able to act logically; this is much more effective
than just thinking out how to avoid procrastination.
Putting down things in black and white is even better than brainstorming with
another person. Here’s the reason: if you write down
what needs to be done, you’re the only one who knows
what’s urgent and important.
You focus on this task from the implementation to completion. Once it’s
completed, you take it off your list. There’s that
sense of accomplishment, no matter how small the accomplishment
is.
You go on to the next task, until you actually get used to the idea of doing,
rather than procrastinating.
Brainstorming with a friend, on the other hand, can be viewed as a positive,
but can be a form of procrastination. You’ll say to
yourself, “what she said makes sense”, so you
mull over it, leaving the task undone.
Thinking about your tasks yourself and then doing them – without anyone’s
feedback – is much more productive.
Tip # 10 Discard old habits
We’re creatures of habit. Even if we know that a certain activity
is no longer cost effective, we continue doing it anyway.
One example: not looking for alternatives. It’s a lot easier to use the
same, familiar road to work, but if there’s a quicker,
or more relaxing route you can take, find out what that
other route is.
It’s always good to have alternative routes. Traffic snarls occur in times
when you’re in a hurry.
Tip # 11 It’s mantra time once again
Once in awhile you’ll deviate from your intentions. You’re
a human being with limitations, or else life, without warning,
takes a detour, and we get derailed.
Let’s take a lesson from our brothers and sisters in the east who live
by mantras that they recite to themselves every day.
Here’s one you can recite in the morning as you wake up: “I will
not procrastinate today. It is unproductive. I have tasks
to do, and I will write them down so I can decide which
of them need to be done by 12 noon. My goal is to finish
at least 2 big tasks and 2 small ones”.
Tip # 12 Have a second mantra for after the job gets done
Have a second mantra that you can recite after you complete a task. “I
completed my task! I focused well and didn’t allow
myself to procrastinate. This translates to about $150.00
that I can take to the bank.”
It may sound vulgar to attach a monetary value to every task accomplished. This
reinforces the belief that time is money. And when you make
a final tally, you’d be surprised at what you end
up with.
Time can always be expressed as a savings or a loss. It’s all up to you.
And people don’t have to know. After all, a mantra
is something you keep to yourself!
Tip # 13 If you fall back a few steps, climb the stairs again
If you’re a chronic procrastinator, you will experience problems
staying on course for the first few weeks. It’s like
going to the gym for the first time. You’re all gung-ho
for the first 3 days and then you stop.
Old habits die hard. So you missed doing the three tasks yesterday, big deal.
Revise the list, and plan on doing them within a specific
time frame. Don’t dwell too long on what you failed
to do.
Start climbing the stairs again and get to the top without looking back. Aim
for completing four tasks today - three from yesterday and
one for today.
III. Procrastination at Home
Tip # 14 Keep it simple
This is a common advice. Simplifying
your life means a simpler, uncluttered way of living. Get
rid of grit and gunk from your house.
When your house overflows with objects, it tends to distract you. And we all
know what happens when there is too much distraction. It
prevents you from thinking and acting intelligently, hence
you procrastinate.
Go around your house and make a list of everything you don’t really need.
For instance, do you really need three toasters in the kitchen?
One hasn’t been working for months. You either dispose
of it or have it fixed.
Tip # 15 Ask family members to do an “inventory”
Ask your husband and children to do an inventory of clutter. Your husband
can do the garage and the basement. Your children can do
their bedrooms. Stipulate that you need their lists in three
days, no later. Explain to them why junk has to be eliminated
from the house.
If you explain your intentions clearly, they will understand and would be more
willing to cooperate. Tell them that the house needs a much
needed airing, and when all the junk disappears, so will
the distractions.
Tip # 16 Encourage them not to replace old junk with new
junk
It can be a vicious cycle. Just as we managed to clear the house of unwanted
bric-a-brac, in come new ones. Explain to your family that
there was a specific reason for clearing junk. Old clutter
should not be replaced with new clutter. Encourage them
to think twice before acquiring additional material possessions.
Examples:
- Will I consult this book more than once, or is it just for one school assignment?
Maybe I can borrow it from the library instead?
- The hubby loves tools. He spends his weekly allowance on them. He just filled
up an entire wall with all kinds of tools. Ask him which
ones he hasn’t used for 6 months and ask him to
throw them away.
- The clothes in your closet. Which of them have you not worn for six months? Call
the Salvation Army or the recycling center.
As soon as the closet is half-full, and you can finally see the wall of your
closet, you’ll be inspired to re-organize your whole
bedroom: dressers, commode and night table drawers –
shoe racks included!
Tip # 17 Don’t let your house budget stick out like a sore thumb
Budgeting for house expenses is a chore people put off indefinitely. They
know something is wrong with the budget; bills pile up and
remain unpaid for weeks, and the only time you jolt out
of your complacency is when the utility company calls to
advise you that power will be cut off in a week if you don’t
settle your bill.
It’s not because you need to earn more; it’s because your budget
needs fixing. Nurse it back to health. Procrastinating will
only make the problem worse. If it’s easy for governments
to get into a deficit, it’s even easier for individuals
to fall in the same trap.
Tip # 18 With the help of family members, identify time wasters
at home
Solicit the cooperation of the entire family and ask them to come up with
potential sources of time wasters. Here’s a handful:
8
miscommunication 8 misplaced objects and personal effects
8 documents and papers not filed 8 too many magazines and
CDs strewn about 8 mistakes 8 indecision 8 inefficient use
of family vehicles 8 too much TV viewing 8 different meal
times 8 non-adherence to curfew rules 8 friends who hang
around indefinitely
Tip # 19 Divide and delegate house chores
Obviously you can’t do it all. So it’s time for a strategy:
plan a nice dinner for your family on one long weekend,
and tell them in advance that you have something to announce.
Cook them a special dish or two and whip up a dessert that
everyone will adore.
At the end of the meal, tell them that you want to make some changes at home.
Say that you’ve been procrastinating in doing some
important chores around the house because you lack their
support.
Bring up your divide and delegate plan, ask them for suggestions, and get everyone’s
commitment. Your concrete, well laid-out plan will get you
the results you want.
Tip # 20 Set up chore chart after division of labor is decided
As the initiator of the plan, you must be the first to set the example.
If you committed to re-organize the cupboards and clean
out the fridge once a week, do it. When everyone sees you’re
doing your part, they’ll do theirs.
Set up a chart in the kitchen or in the TV room where everyone can cross out
the task once it’s completed. Check the chart once
a week; tell them how pleased you are with their progress.
If some members have been delinquent, ask them why. Don’t
scold, give them another chance. This chart is an effective
way for you to identify who the biggest procrastinators
are, and you may need to supervise them more closely.
Tip # 21 Begin with small chores first to get everyone’s cooperation
If a huge job is assigned the first time, that person may tend to procrastinate.
You may consider dividing up the chore in small parts.
Let’s take re-painting the entire garage as an example. If your husband
works the usual 8 hours a day, don’t expect him to
paint the whole garage on one weekend.
Remember that the old paint needs to come off, some sanding has to be done, and
primer needs to be applied. If you have a closed, double-car
garage, divide the job by walls, or by a quarter of a wall
at a time.
That way your husband does not feel overwhelmed, forcing him to think of excuses
to put it off.
Tip # 22 Procrastinating can lead to major house repair bills
There are certain appliances we take for granted. If routine maintenance
isn’t exactly one of your favorite hobbies, motivate
yourself by saying procrastinating can lead to major house
repair bills.
Here’s an example: the water heater was working fine until one cold winter
morning, everyone started shouting “There’s
no hot water!” Experts say that water heaters need
to be checked once every two years. Deposits collect at
the base of the heater over time, interrupting with the
smooth operation of the heating coils. Why wait for it to
break down, necessitating costly repair or replacement bills?
Prepare a check list of appliances that need to be inspected and ensure that
your maintenance records are in order.
Tip # 23 Healthy eating – plan the menu ahead of time
Procrastinating leads to fast food. We can prove this easily. Last weekend,
you ordered pizza and cokes for the family because you didn’t
have time to cook.
You vow that from now on, your family will eat only healthy meals. You decide
to shop for ingredients early in the week. The weekend’s
here and nothing was bought, because you kept putting it
off.
Tip # 24 Oh, what a slimy garden…
The garden is one part of the house where everyone loves to spend nice
summer evenings. But spring arrives and no one dares to
stay in the garden because it’s unkempt. Someone’s
got to pick up the shovel and the pruners soon; include
the garden in your list of tasks for next spring. Remember
to share the work: let someone take the lawn, someone else
take the flower beds, another member the fence, and so on.
Make it a communal effort.
IV Procrastination in School
Tip # 25 Take your cue from the professor’s
lesson plans
On the first day of school, professors customarily hand out lesson plans
for the semester or the quarter, depending on what school
system you’re in.
The lesson plans include the main textbooks to be used, supplementary reading
material, project submission dates, and exam dates. Treat
this lesson plan as your guide for avoiding procrastination.
Academic procrastination can be disastrous if not reined
in properly!
Tip # 26 Use the lesson plan to identify the short and long
term assignments
Professors are efficient creatures. They schedule out assignments appropriately
so they too are not overburdened with term papers and exam
booklets. If they were overloaded, they’d have to
procrastinate in tallying final grades, leaving that task
at the last minute.
So professors mean business when they write “to be handed in by….”
Use their lesson plans to arrange your own schedule. Take
an hour or two and spend the time in the library reviewing
all your lesson plans for the semester.
Map out dates with corresponding academic tasks, revising if necessary. If certain
projects require extensive research, tackle those first.
Last minute researching – procrastinating –
in other words – may affect your chances of getting
an “A.”
Tip # 27 School’s a fun place to hang out, but…
Teens are at that time of their lives where socializing is their # 1 priority.
They prefer hanging out with their friends instead of with
mom and dad; it’s only natural therefore that some
teens consider school as the extended party place.
And spending time with their friends is an excellent excuse for postponing school
work. When you’re spending too much time in the corridors,
locker rooms or cafeteria discussing next Saturday’s
disco dance, your academic work will lag behind.
To avoid the school principal calling your parents, be reasonable about academic
work. Submit papers and assignments on time.
To illustrate: if you’ve got a paper due in two days where you need to
research on the social instincts of Neanderthals and their
need for company, tell your friends politely that no, you
can’t join them at the mall after school.
Go seek refuge in the library instead, pick a quiet and inconspicuous corner
where you can’t be interrupted. Pore over the Neanderthal
books and write a smashing essay. Hanging out in the mall
won’t tell you much about their social instincts!
Tip # 28 School counselors are there to help…
Instead of agonizing over an academic problem indefinitely, have you ever
thought that your school counselor could be a valuable support
person? If you think you need a tutor for Physics or Chemistry
because you’re having a whirl of a time understanding
the equations, ask for help before it’s too late.
Faced with academic difficulties, students tend to procrastinate in asking for
help because they’re either too shy or too lazy to
ask for help. Take advantage of school resources like tutors
and academic counselors before you get an “F”
at the end of term.
Tip # 29 “My boyfriend’s in the same class and…”
If your boyfriend is in the same class, that’s fine, but don’t
let that distract you so that the relationship encroaches
on academic work.
Don’t let love make procrastinate in completing your assignments. But when
you’re spending too much time in each other’s
company and it’s beginning to make you procrastinate
in doing what your teachers and team leaders expect of you,
arrange dates with your boyfriend ahead of time wherein
you absolutely CANNOT get together.
Strike a healthy balance. Succeeding in human relationships is just as hard as
succeeding in school work. Besides, you don’t want
to blame your sweetheart for your poor performance in Biology,
do you?
Tip # 30 Fight your own battles first
Another manifestation of procrastination is when you let others monopolize
your time so they can pour out their hearts to you. Being
a willing listener is one thing, but when you do this too
often, it will make you procrastinate.
Assess your motives. Do you listen to their problems so you can avoid school
work or your own problems? Don’t use friendship or
the Good Samaritan philosophy to procrastinate.
Tip # 31 An ideal student, but he’s doing way too much
The ideal student not only excels in academic work, but also in extra
curricular activities.
He’s a member of the basketball team, the president of the science club,
the chief debater on campus, the volunteer who offers his
services twice a week to accompany seniors to their doctors’
appointments. He’s the all-around and wholesome American
boy, the envy of all parents, the lad who makes the girls
swoon all over.
Little do you know how much pressure he has fulfilling all these roles. It has
everything to do with image. How does he keep a healthy
balance? He can’t. That’s the straight and honest
answer. It’s called STRETCHING YOURSELF TOO THIN.
Often we forget that we’re in school primarily for
intellectual pursuits.
Sports and humanitarian work come in second. But the admission that you can’t
do it all is the first step in avoiding procrastination.
Don’t fall behind your school work because you’re
being pulled in all directions.
And don’t use your extra activities in school as the excuse for your procrastination.
No one is going to earn your diploma for you.
Tip # 32 Many committees, many commitments
This is just an extension of tip 31 above. School officials who have programs
or personal agendas will form committees and request student
volunteers to steer these committees.
It’s a great way for them to let their students do the research work for
their upcoming thesis, or get students to assist in that
charity drive they do every year.
As a student, you have to decide which committee will serve your goals best.
And if you must get involved, then choose one, or a maximum
of two committees, provided that you have time left to tackle
your school work.
Don’t let your committee commitments lead you to the path of procrastination.
You’ll have plenty of time for committee work when
you leave university.
Tip # 33 Break that huge term paper into small parts
Students dread term papers. They take forever to finish and you hate footnoting.
You’re not alone. Term paper phobia is as common as
a fear of heights.
If you tend to put doing term papers, one way of avoiding procrastination is
to divide the project into small parts. When you’ve
set up the outline, pick out the sections you think are
the most difficult and begin your research. You can leave
the easy parts for later.
Breaking a job into tinier segments is an effective way of taking immediate action
instead of postponing it for later.
Tip # 34 Turn that cell phone off
Your parents bought you a cell phone so you can call if you find yourself
in a bind or need a lift or simply need to let them know
if you’ll be late for dinner.
It’s a good idea to keep the cell phone with you especially on those nights
when you have to stay in the library till late at night.
But don’t use it to keep you from doing what you’re
supposed to do.
If you talk too much on your cellular, you’re not only using air time,
you’re using it to procrastinate from attending to
that pressing academic project. Allocate 30 minutes during
the day to stay in touch with friends, but try not to go
beyond that time.
Tip # 35 Don’t live in the gym
We agree, staying fit is important. You need muscles and brawn to keep
you in tip top shape for jogging from one classroom to another.
Plus, the gym is a great way to unwind and…meet next Saturday night’s
date. Nothing wrong with toning those muscles, but have
you procrastinated enough doing something for your brain
as well?
The brain also needs to be stretched and maximized to earn that ticket to an
Ivy League university later. Go ahead and shape up, but
don’t let your six pack abs get in the way of meaningful
school work.
V. Procrastination at the Work Place
Tip # 36 Job description is your main guide
You got that much coveted job.
It’s tailored fit to your skills and experience. The
perfect job, congratulations!
So as not to procrastinate in this new job the way you did in the previous one,
sit down and examine your job closely with a fine-toothed
comb. Assess what the priorities might look like, and what
the most difficult tasks will be, based on your past experience.
Then map out a navigation chart, with AVOID PROCRASTINATING as your guiding principle.
Imagine different situations that might occur, and the relationships
you need to cultivate and nurture that will help you accomplish
your objectives.
Study the short term goals versus the long term goals. Remember: companies measure
your performance using certain parameters. One wrong move
and it will obliterate all the good deed you did the month
before. Don’t give them the satisfaction of labeling
you a procrastinator.
Tip # 37 Hone that keen sense of smell
If you’ve developed a strong sense of smell and have judged character
with surprising accuracy, use that to your advantage. Try
to distinguish the good colleagues from the back stabbers.
It’s easy to receive cooperation from the good ones, harder from the blockers
or those who resent you. If hostile feelings are preventing
you from doing an effective job, don’t procrastinate
because you dislike confrontation.
Deal with the problem. Nip it in the bud, as they say. Try every trick in the
book to win their confidence and trust. Help them not to
procrastinate so that you don’t procrastinate.
Tip # 38 Procrastinating can lead to tunnel vision
If you analyze a lot, you could get paralyzed and stay stuck analysis
mode. This could lead to tunnel vision.
If you eliminate procrastination from your life, you avoid tunnel vision. As
Jane Smith said, “there is always more than one way
to get to where you want to be. Make the effort to look
for the alternatives even if they are hard to find at first.”
(Successful Work Habits in a Week, Hodder & Stoughton,
2002).
Tip # 39 Learning to say no
Its one thing to try to win your colleagues’ collaboration, playing
martyr is another. Learn to say no, no matter how much you
like or admire a colleague.
Don’t see the office as the place for cementing friendships. Stick to your
agenda and do the work. Keep the emotions of your colleagues
– and yours – at bay. If a colleague is in trouble
and you’ve helped her in the past, let her deal with
it herself this time. Don’t leave a task undone just
so you can offer a helping hand to everyone.
Tip # 40 “We’re a great team!”
You have a great team? Good for you. Use it to your advantage. If your
team members are performing to your satisfaction, you have
more confidence in delegating tasks to them, freeing up
considerable time for you to attend to your important duties.
Knowing that you have a team you can rely will make you procrastinate less. Delegate
tasks based on each team member’s strength and limitations;
it’s one of the more effective ways to obtain results.
Tip # 41 “I’ve got some problems with my team”
It’s not the end of the world. This situation can be salvaged, but
it’s up to you to do damage control. Don’t give
up on your team members. It will take time to teach them
leadership skills. Invest the time now rather than later.
It takes an exceptional leader to get everyone to cooperate and share the same
vision. It’s your job to make sure that the team produces
for the overall good of the company.
An unhealthy team mired in hostility and aggression is the # 1 barrier to productivity.
Many managers have procrastinated in doing their jobs because
the team is divided.
Lacking support is the sure way to procrastination, and procrastination equals
non-productivity. If you’re busy putting out fires
and mending hearts, you might be next in line before firing
squad.
Tip # 42 “Urgent” is the flavor of the day
Unless you’re in the business of saving lives, then be wary of managers
who say “it’s urgent.” You see this happening
everyday in the office.
Workers are pushed to produce busloads of reports. How much of it gets read?
A large company produces at least 100 different reports
a day.
Take one example. One of the large companies we worked for had at least five
different reports on inventory: inventory of return merchandise,
inventory of obsolete parts, inventory of parts on allocation,
etc. And as the years pass, the inventory spreadsheets on
inventory get larger and longer.
While it’s good to sift through reports, it’s also a sign of procrastination.
Who said a company will fold up because managers don’t
devour the 101 reports a day?
Get to the bottom line. Filter through the essential data and read those. Identify
those tasks that are truly urgent.
Tip # 43 Workplace safety
Government authorities are breathing down the necks of companies to implement
work safety facilities and procedures. Companies must comply
with regulations and must ensure the physical well-being
of employees.
If you notice that there are potential causes of accidents in say, the parking
lot (e.g. broken bottles, ice, large potholes, sluggish
security gates and card readers) report it immediately to
the appropriate department. Don’t wait for an accident
to happen.
Tip 44 Get to the bottom of things
If your boss requests that you investigate an incident, do a thorough
job, not a half-baked one. Use your detective skills so
that you submit a full report giving all the facts and circumstances
of the incident. By doing a thorough job the first time,
you avoid having to do a reinvestigation because there were
questions from the boss you couldn’t answer.
Tip # 45 Ah, those back-to-back meetings
There must be something about board rooms and conference rooms that make
people gravitate towards them. Is it the mahogany wood,
the jelly croissants that are served every morning, the
new projector, the cushy leather chairs? Meetings take up
a lot of time.
Not that they’re useless, but there are far too many meetings being held.
If you take the number of man hours per day that are taken
up by meetings, multiply that number by 5 days and then
multiply that again by 50 (excluding Christmas and New Year).
Compare that figure to the company’s annual generated revenues. If we took
half of those man hours and made managers stay at their
desks doing their work, imagine how much more revenues can
be earned.
Don’t doubt it - meetings are a great time to daydream and give in to our
distractions. It’s a “perfectly legitimate”
excuse not to review last month’s accounting expenses
that are due soon.
Tip # 46 “You’ve got 28 voice mails” and
“you have 55 unread messages”
How much time would it take to go through all those messages? Voice mails
and e-mails take you away from your main functions. Deal
with the important ones and decide which ones can be dealt
with this afternoon, tomorrow, and next week. And do file
them away in a sub-folder so they don’t take up visual
space on your screen.
Some workers tend to answer each and every message they receive, since it’s
a great escape from the real task at hand. For non-urgent
matters, devote 4:30 pm to 5:00 pm (when things begin to
wind down) for answering non-urgent messages.
Tip # 47 Are you a morning person?
Fitness trainers ask people this question a lot because exercising at
a specific time of the day is an effective method for maintaining
discipline. The same applies to the office. If you’re
a morning person, tackle your difficult responsibilities
when you’re most energetic and productive before lunch.
Leave the less essential ones for another time. And then there are some people
who like to work through their lunch hours because that’s
when they reach peak energy levels; that way they leave
the office early to have that extra hour to spend with family.
Tip # 48 Do what you hate most first
There are certain aspects of our job we don’t like. But you need
not let these unpleasant tasks derail you. If you make it
a daily habit to tackle them first, they become easier for
you to do and won’t be as unpleasant. You’ve
saved yourself precious minutes by not procrastinating.
Tip # 49 Arrgh, here comes the collection bag again
Do you know how much time is wasted when people go around collecting money
for things like birthdays and retirements? The actual celebration
takes just as long. If you’re the manager of a department,
tone down on the merry-making. Birthdays are meant to be
intimate celebrations, not a means to procrastinate. Sign
memos instead of hordes of birthday cards!
Tip # 50 Heap praise on a job well done
Employees thrive on positive feedback. A sincere compliment for a job
well done is a strong motivator for employees to do even
better next time. Be fair in granting salary increases.
Promote an employee if he or she deserves it. Happy employees
are good for the company’s profit and loss statement.
Tip # 51 And Cy Charney says…
Cy Charney wrote “The Instant manager” (American Management
Association – AMACON, 2004) and his thesis was on
how to become an effective manager. One of his recommendations
was to respect the time of your team members, just as they
do yours.
Mr. Charney said, “Don’t ask them to do things that others should
be doing, unless it is an emergency. Don’t continuously
interrupt them unless absolutely necessary. Let them complete
each task.”
Tip # 52 If you’re stuck, ask
Instead of wasting time wracking your brain, be humble and approach a
colleague even if she’s a subordinate. Say, “I’m
running out of ideas, can you brainstorm with me?”
or “I can’t solve this problem. Maybe you see
something in it that I don’t?”
Procrastinating in asking for help won’t solve anything, but swallowing
our pride can yield tremendous benefits. It makes your colleague
feel good, and she can offer a fresh perspective on the
problem.
Tip # 53 Hurry, put the punch clock right by the water fountain!
If water fountains could record conversations between office workers,
the tape and timer would probably run out. It’s like
a tower transmitter that emits data at many kilobytes per
second.
If you were to “clock” workers who spend too much time by the water
fountain, it becomes apparent who the true procrastinators
are. They should be at their desks dealing with the paper
work or satisfying irate customers, but no, they avoid angry
customers by quenching their thirst and turning it into
some kind of art form.
Tip # 54 Office cafeteria: Saturday Night Live!
There are days it doesn’t look like an office cafeteria anymore;
it has the air of a cruising bar – and not just on
Fridays! Meeting who’s who at the cafeteria is a daily
sacred ritual so woe to the person who stands in the way
of the socialization process.
“You need to reach out, interact with human beings, otherwise the company
turns into an impersonal arena,” they say defiantly.
Okay, folks. Socialize all you want, while that webcam conference is going on.
It’s only the president talking about freezing salaries
and downsizing the work force. Lingering in the cafeteria
to make small talk is a glaring form of procrastinating.
At least you got to agree to this one.
Tip # 55 Birthday bashes take 1-2 hours of planning and
celebrating. Do you know how many hours it takes
to plan the company Christmas party?
If you pay close attention, some companies actually form committees for
purposes of planning the annual Christmas employee party.
Five to six members assigned to food and beverage, another
three for the live band and perhaps one to four people to
think of games and kiosks.
And God forbid, let’s not forget the gift exchange. The Christmas party
is a whole movie production of sorts. And obviously an excellent
reason to escape the drudgery of memos and customer calls
and filling out return merchandise account forms. Procrastination
at its most festive!
Tip # 56 “Hey, did you hear about Felicity and her
husband? Thirty years of marriage and now this…”
The latest scoop is always the juiciest. In a large company of 5,000 employees,
for instance, if you were to tally the number of lovers’
quarrels, miscarriages, divorces, children on drugs, children
who dropped out of school, cosmetic procedures done, who’s
wearing the latest hi-tech heart pacer and who got terminated,
you’d probably come up with an astonishing number.
But there’s no need to take pen and paper to tally up the figures because
this is where word of mouth works best. The rumor mill has
never been riper and…juicier.
If you try to camouflage your procrastination by pretending to be genuinely concerned
about the gruesome details of a divorce or mastectomy, you’re
only cheating yourself. Basking in the misery of others
is counter productive to professional achievement.
Tip # 57 To echo the martyr idea mentioned earlier…
Mentoring is one of the more valuable contributions you can make to a
company. Its positive effects must never be underestimated.
Many a successful human being had a mentor or several mentors
at different stages of his life.
But anything carried out to excess has a negative effect. If you think you have
a sacred duty to mentor your subordinate because you want
to develop his potential for a managerial role, then do
so. Just don’t do it excessively, or else someone
above you will begin to think, “Those who can’t,
teach.” Apply the brakes on your predilection for
over-mentoring.
Tip # 58 Watch out, if you’re networking to the hilt,
this could just be your way of dodging your responsibilities!
Your secretary looks up, surprised, as you bolt out the door. “Where
are you off too?” “To my networking club”,
you say.
“But that’s where you were all afternoon yesterday!” she persists.
“I belong to another networking club. It’s called
diversifying your contacts, my dear. Got to expand those
contacts, otherwise, the company can’t sell what’s
left in our inventory.”
Go ahead and network, if you must. But if the excess inventory runs out of control,
don’t go crying to your networking buddies. They’re
not buying any of that excess inventory.
Tip # 59 And if you’re no longer happy on the job…
Don’t procrastinate about leaving and seeking better opportunities
elsewhere, if you’re no longer happy on the job. If
you and upper management no longer see eye-to-eye on your
role in the whole scheme of things, then cut your losses
(emotional losses included) and hand in your resignation.
If your salary is your sole means of support, then time your departure in such
a way that you have another job waiting for you. Don’t
let a regular paycheck or stock options or sheer convenience
feed your procrastinating habits.
Tip # 60 If you are interrupted often on the job, Smith says,
“Remain standing.”
People like to mill in and out of private offices just to make small talk.
They’re the classic procrastinators at work. If they
enter your office uninvited and appear to be engaging you
in idle chatter, here is Jane Smith’s tip (Successful
Work Habits, Hodder & Stoughton, 2002): stand up
and remain standing. And don’t ask your unwanted visitor
to sit down!
Tip # 61 Upgrade skills and expand knowledge base
A corporation does not need stale ideas from stale employees. Invest the
time in upgrading your skills and expanding your knowledge
base.
Learn a new language, add to your repertory of software, and take life-enhancing
courses offered by your local college or university.
Don’t procrastinate, because you’ll never know when your company
will create a position requiring a foreign language.
Tip # 62 Don’t procrastinate in ensuring a smooth transition
for your successor
Your successor deserves a smooth transition. Schedule your departure intelligently.
Tie up loose ends so that you can hand over your files and
pending matters to whoever is taking over your job.
Help her succeed by not procrastinating. Type out an information sheet resembling
a Frequently Asked Question list and give it to her.
This way, when the actual transitioning takes place, you don’t waste time
addressing routine questions, leaving you more time to show
her the key aspects of your functions.
VI. Procrastination and Human Relationships
Tip # 63 Okay, so you’re not impulsive
but…
“I want to think things more.
I don’t want to hurt him.” How many times have
we heard that before? Men and women say they don’t
want to do anything – especially end a relationship
– impulsively.
The problem is, you’re the problem. Admit it. The relationship’s
been going downhill for the last 12 months. You’ve
craved for freedom frequently, but you still can’t
get to tell your mate that love’s gone out the window.
Stop pretending that you need to think things through. No matter how you analyze
it, it all boils down to the same thing: time to move on.
Here are examples of what your procrastination causes:
- You
deprive yourself of the mental freedom you need to
concentrate on other aspects of your life,
- You deprive yourself of the opportunity to meet other people who share your interests
and with whom you can have a meaningful relationship,
- You deprive your mate of the truth about how you feel
- You deprive your mate of the opportunity to meeting other people,
- You deprive your mate and yourself of the chance to find happiness again.
Just muster up the courage and say it. Time heals all wounds.
Tip # 64 It’s not what you say, it’s HOW you say it
No one says ending a relationship is easy. There have been documented
accounts of people turning suicidal after a break-up, separation
or divorce. They fall into a depression, and a few are unable
to come out of it whole and able to trust again.
But if you procrastinate because you’re worried about the aftermath, you’ll
only be doing the other person a disservice. Talk to your
mate when you have full rein of your emotions.
Yes, honesty is still the best policy but this is where you’ll have to
optimize on your diplomat’s skills. Choose your words,
and dwell on the positive. Convince her that both of you
would be better off with somebody else. Offer to remain
friends so the transition is not emotionally devastating.
Tip # 65 Married to your work? Or just procrastinating
in the dating game?
In Lives Without Balance, Steven Carter and Judith Sokol (Villard
Books, 1992) discuss the phenomenon of confirmed bachelors,
male and female.
Striking a balance between work and play is still considered the ideal, no matter
how sacred you think the work ethic is: “By now if
you are unattached, it’s probably overwhelmingly apparent
that your lifestyle is not conducive to finding or forming
a solid relationship. Whether you’re male or female,
you are simply so involved in your work that you don’t
have the necessary time or energy for dating…Yet
you ache for a relationship.
Is procrastination barring you from a meaningful relationship?
Tip # 66 Father / mother issues?
One of the worst kinds of procrastination is when you carry resentment
from childhood into adolescence and into adulthood. Here
you are in your 40’s and that childhood resentment
is still brewing inside you. All these years you’ve
allowed it to grow into a cancer because you won’t
deal with it.
Don’t let your procrastination erode any love that’s left. If you’re
angry about something, speak up. If they explained their
side, perhaps that resentment may just whittle away, and
you’ll only berate for yourself for making a mountain
out of a molehill. You can’t continue blaming your
parents for your misfortunes.
Tip # 67 And with your siblings…
Don’t procrastinate either. Instead of putting off a project in
which your older sister asked you for help, why not just
tell her in a straightforward manner that you don’t
have time to spare because of your school work and other
commitments. Tell her now and not later. That way you avoid
any friction.
Tip # 68 Aunt Mable means well, but…
Everyone has a doting aunt. They think the world of us and would give
us anything in the world to make us happy – including
their used make-up kits, clothes and handbags. The generational
divide in fashion tastes though is too apparent to ignore.
Don’t postpone telling your aunt Mable that you don’t want her fire
engine red lipstick, her roaring 20’s dinner gown
and her leopard skin handbag. If you don’t tell her
now, she’ll shower you with more undesirable gifts.
And remember what we said earlier about clutter.
The procrastinating monster rears its ugly head in between the dark recesses
of your closet that’s looking more like a huge wasteland.
Tip #69 “Come with me shopping…”
Or “let’s go see a movie.” “Let’s bar hop
tonight.” “Can you go with me to this concert?”
“Join me for dinner at my step mother’s. I don’t
want to be alone with her.”
Do you have friends who seem to want to include you in all – and we mean
all – of their activities? Is it their constant need
for company, or simply a case of not having a backbone?
If you’re not capable of a firm but polite no, you’ll
receive a lot more invitations you can handle.
Friendships have to be nurtured, but this is overkill. Shed off your procrastination
habits and tell your friend politely you can’t go
out with her anymore. She’ll survive. Or she can find
someone else to drag along.
Tip # 70 Butt out of my kitchen!
One woman was lamenting the fact that her mother-in-law always seems to
drop in around the time she’s preparing dinner for
her husband.
This woman endured her mother-in-law’s unwelcome visits – not to
mention her acerbic words - for six months, but feels she’s
come to the end of her rope.
The woman told us, “She says things like, my dear Albert (that’s
my husband) would much rather pepper his steak than salt
it. One day, I had worked so hard on this trifle, and
she said, oh dear, I don’t think he’s too
fond of British dessert; he has a weakness though for French
pastries. I’m surprised he didn’t tell you.”
If the woman is as smart in the human relationships department as she is in the
kitchen, she’ll know how to deal with her mother-in-law.
But she better take action now or she’ll end up soaking
her in a pot of scalding soup!
Tip # 71 If there’s a will, there’s a way
We’re not referring here to the will to do something. We’re
talking about a real Will – as in Last Will and Testament.
Your father is dying and is about to sign his last will.
You also know that he is going to leave a larger part of his estate to your older
brother being the eldest child. And here’s the painful
part.
You know that your older brother has been arrested a few times for gambling debts
and credit card fraud. The family kept this secret from
your father because of his illness. For the last five years,
you’ve been arguing with your brothers and sisters
to tell your father about your brother’s predicament,
but they did not want him to worry unnecessarily.
If you procrastinate and the Will is signed and then your father passes away,
your inaction is tantamount to squandering your father’s
hardearned money. Worse, your brother’s situations
will deteriorate further. You give a chronic gambler more
money, what do you really think he’s going to do with
it?
Tip # 72 Aging sick parents need just a bit of your time
Your parents have lost their autonomy and are in a home for the aged.
Have you been to one of these places lately? Old sick people
can’t move around anymore and are confined to their
wheelchairs all day long.
You see the look on their faces – the look that says they could use some
company, need to be read to, or need someone to just listen
to their troubles. Sons and daughters with families of their
own and who lead hectic lives come less often, a few have
stopped coming. Think what a pity it would be if you procrastinated
in visiting.
Tip # 73 Health is wealth and many more
Health conditions need immediate attention. Don’t procrastinate
in seeing a doctor to have the following checked: growths,
tumors, change in appetite, consistent chest pain, numbness
that doesn’t go away, frequent dizziness, irregular
bowel movement, loss of appetite, depression, blood in your
stool, persistent coughing, unusual changes in the skin,
or a general feeling of being unwell.
VII. Self Improvement – A General Sense of Wellbeing
Tip # 74 Let’s get physical…
You’ve complained enough
about your weight. Your parents are tired of listening to
you, and so are your friends. It’s been a yo-yo, on
and off, touch and go affair with the scale.
You’re only 23 but you’re overweight by twice that number. The doctor
just said that you’re a likely candidate of diabetes
if you don’t do something. See which of these statements
apply to you. “I’d feel better if I lost weight
because:
- I would like myself better. I’d be happier about my physical appearance.
- If I learn to like myself, my friends and family would like me better too. I’d
be more positive about life, and I’d slowly build
up my self-confidence. These qualities attract people.
- I’d be more comfortable in my relationships with the opposite sex. I would
stop agonizing about what they’re thinking of me
being such a fat slob. I want them to think of me as attractive,
and pleasant to be with.
- My doctor would stop nagging me. My blood pressure, my cholesterol, and my blood
sugar levels would be lower, and with some effort, I’d
probably regain that old energy I had in my teens.
- My friends would respect me more and seek my opinion about their own problems.
The benefits are immeasurable. If you stop procrastinating, you can enjoy these
benefits today.
Tip # 75 The gym can be a scary place
If you go to the gym frequently enough, you get used to seeing certain
types: the fanatics, the confident and the driven.
Then there are those who can’t look you in the eye – they’re
attired in clothes that camouflage their size and their
demeanor suggests they’re embarrassed about being
in the gym at all. They look miserable, move awkwardly,
and are terrified of the machines.
You were there once. Don’t delay about giving them encouragement. A simple,
sincere smile would go a long way. Don’t give advice;
don’t offer to show them how a particular machine
can be adjusted. If you smile at them everyday, chances
are by next week, they shall have mustered enough courage
to ask you to help them figure out their fitness routine.
It works all the time!
Tip # 76 You’ve reached a plateau – at the gym
Even your fitness program needs re-hashing. If you stick to the same routine
for more than 6 weeks, and you’ve got fitness goals
to achieve (stronger hamstrings as an example), then don’t
let your shyness stand in your in achieving those goals.
Get a fitness trainer to help you. The essential thing about fitness is variety.
You can’t be doing the same exercises indefinitely
without varying your routine.
First, you could be less enthused doing those repetitive movements with the same
muscle groups, and second, those muscles may get overworked
to the point that they’re no longer reacting to your
pushing and pulling.
Don’t let a trainer intimidate you. They’re always willing to discuss
your goals - that’s what they’re trained and
paid to do. If you procrastinate, you may not learn the
secrets to turning your biceps into the watermelons you
want them to be. They’ll remain the size of plums.
Tip # 77 Cosmetic surgery: not a sin these days
Why should it be? People have a right to change their appearance if it
gives them more self-confidence, and less of an inferiority
complex.
If your long hooked nose has been bothering you for years and you can re-shape
it safely, why not get a nose job done? People do it all
the time. And even if half of them won’t admit, they’re
suddenly looking wonderful. And they’re happier, more
radiant. Don’t procrastinate. Cosmetic surgery is
NOTHING to be ashamed of. Get a new nose, be nose-happy
and nurse that bruised ego back to health.
Tip # 78 Did you make it to the list of 10 worst dressed
this year?
It’s been ages since anyone complimented you on your wardrobe. You
walk along the office corridor and you notice people turn
away.
Perhaps you’re imagining it but they seem to be suppressing a giggle every
time they see you. Okay, you’ve never been vain about
your appearance, but we’re not sure that’s exactly
a good thing nowadays, especially if there’s so much
press coverage about the oft-repeated concept of “dressing
for success.”
Not sure you’re wearing 21st
century attire? Not sure your make-up isn’t more appropriate
for the circus? Not sure the colors match? Do your shoes
look like you haven’t stepped into a shoe store for
the last 15 years?
If you procrastinate about seeing an image consultant, you may not even make
it to the first step of the corporate ladder. Your brains
and experience got you this far. Are you going to let your
image set you back a few light years? Don’t hesitate.
Image consultants would give anything to turn a project
into a success.
Tip # 79 That turbulence inside…
Thank goodness for the 21st
century. We have cosmetic surgeons, image consultants, and
we also have…psychologists. You sure deserve an “A”
for appearance: you’re the envy of your friends, the
campus belle, and the office “beauty and brains”
who’s loved, hated, loved.
Your ideas are imitated by management, your flawless complexion is making everyone
curious about the night cream brand you use, and none of
your muscles is out of place. What’s even more aggravating
is, in spite of your God-given gifts, you’re unpretentious
and unassuming.
BUT –
That turbulence inside you is slowly becoming a full blown unstoppable thunderstorm.
It’s eroding your confidence, and your wounds remain
uncared for. We all agree. Emotional wounds take the longest
to heal. You need an expert who’ll come to the rescue.
That list of psychologists has been sitting inside your drawer for the last six
months. Staring at it won’t cure you. Dial the first
number on the list. Ask to see a psychologist. If you procrastinate
some more, you may need more than a psychologist. Psychiatrists
have been also known to cure old, festering wounds.
Tip # 80 Avoiding procrastination means you don’t have
to change your life radically
People procrastinate because they’re overwhelmed by the enormity
of what they’re facing. To stop procrastinating does
not mean radically changing your life, or suddenly switching
from one profession to another.
As Carter and Sokol explain, “There is usually a reason why we chose the
work we did, have the friends we do, and lead the lives
we lead. If you are like people, you don’t want a
different life; you just want to be able to manage the one
you have.”
Do bear one thing in mind. The more you delay, the more dissatisfied you will
be with your life.
Tip # 81 Stress: either manage it or stay away from it
Many people have been known to suddenly wake up one day and decide they
want out. They walk away from 20-year marriages, break a
childhood friendship and disengage from lifelong commitments.
They decided it was better to walk away from a situation that was generating
more stress than they could handle - a wise decision on
their part, given that a few reports have zeroed in on it
as a potential leading cause of cancer.
Give
this simplistic equation a thought or two: stress indecision
•
more stress procrastination inaction triple stress
illness!!
Tip # 82 If you decide to manage your stress…
You’ve heard the expression, “something’s got to give.”
If you wish to deal with your stress more effectively, you’ll
have to cut back on some of your activities because you’ll
need a reservoir of strength to confront that stress.
But make a decision now about what you can give up, so that you’ll have
some energy remaining for other challenges that come your
way.
For instance, if you do volunteer work three times a week at the home for battered
woman, how about diminishing the frequency to once a week.
Your daughter who was being physically abused by her husband finally had the
courage to pack her bags and leave him. She’s now
come to you for help and you know it will be a lengthy recovery
period. Charity begins at home. Don’t create two different
sources of stress. Decide which is more important and take
action.
Tip # 83 “My name is Tess, and I’m an alcoholic”
Alcoholism is a SERIOUS problem, no two ways about it. And it can be criminal,
if you drink and drive and hit someone. If you’re
drinking everyday and you’re feeling helpless and
desperate, and these feelings are leading you to drink more,
you need help. Don’t delay. There are humanitarian
organizations in your community that will provide referrals.
Or go on the Net and begin your research into recovery.
Tip # 84 “Hi, my name is Ted…no sorry…it’s
J…J…Jed…and I’m on drugs.”
Drugs are bad news. You could destroy not only your future, but also your
family’s future. Drug rehabilitation clinics have
mushroomed all over the country. That’s why you’re
not alone, and that’s the good news.
Stop procrastinating and see a drug counselor in school, or ask for your doctor’s
advice about where you can go. It’s best to invest
in drug rehabilitation now than to squander your lifetime
savings on a never-ending need for drugs. Don’t procrastinate
in withdrawing – and this isn’t a contradiction
of terms. We just want to say, don’t delay about getting
treatment. You’ll suffer from withdrawal symptoms
at first, but they’re only temporary.
Tip # 85 And then there was light…
You’ve tried everything – plan A, plan B. This option, that
option. You’ve taken detours…short-cuts. Even
dabbled in medieval art, of all things. A solution is nowhere
to be found. Your life is one shattered mess and you’re
feeding on the splinters. Yours is a “life of quiet
desperation,” as one famous writer once said.
There’s one person in your entourage that you’ve forgotten: your
parish priest. The reverend Jesuit, the Chief Rabbi, and
the Holy Iman
– whatever religion you were born or converted into – never procrastinate
in getting that much needed spiritual guidance.
Your problems may be your wake up call to the fact that you’re spiritually
devoid and empty. Spiritual leaders rejoice and give thanks
whenever one of their prodigal sons returns to the fold.
Don’t wait until you plunge into complete darkness.
There’s one flickering candle left. Grab it and find
your way out of the dark hole.
VIII. Bonus tips
This section contains your bonus
tips. Some you can use, some are not relevant to you. There’s
no logical order to these tips, but at least this is a bonus
that is tax free!
Your morning paper is divided into sections, and each section caters to the needs
and expectations of specific family members.
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